Love Wins

Here we go again. I am packing and leaving to head to Lake Junaluska for Annual Conference, a gathering of United Methodists from the Western part of North Carolina.  As I prepare to head up the mountain I am struck by the timing of life events.   Normally my memory is not this historically accurate but because of this annual event in my life- I remember very well. One year ago we were trying to make sense of a shooting in a church in Charleston where 9 people were killed during a prayer service.  The shooter’s motivation was around race issues and of course, hate.

635709713700553550-781956237_UnknownToday, we find ourselves in the aftermath of the largest mass shooting in America to date, 50 people were shot in Orlando in a gay night club.  We are still trying to understand motive but there is a common denominator- issues around LGBT and hate.  The fact that the shooter was Muslim does not seem to be a contributing factor although plenty will argue that point.  We’ll have to wait and see but homophobia and mental instability appear to be the primary contributing factors.

Those who died over the weekend were between the age of 20 and 50 with most of those persons being in their 20’s and 30’s.  Forty-nine people.  Violently shot dead by a stranger.  With an automatic rifle.  Motivated by generalized hate of a particular group of people.

And I am sick and tired of this broken record.  We know the routine.  We watch the news and the newsfeeds in shock and deep sadness or anger.  And then after a few days we go back to business as usual.  Maybe with a slightly heightened sense of safety or concern.  For a while.  Then we forget until the next event happens.  We talk about it.  We argue about it.  But we do nothing significant about it.

When will we learn that whatever we are doing isn’t working?  I do not have solutions.  But I do have a conviction.  It’s age old.  Taught by a Master.  Tried and tested and fairly effective when utilized.  But apparently tough for human nature to fully embrace.  But it’s not new.

Love wins.   Hate loses.  I may not be able to change gun laws.  I may not be able to eradicate extreme Christian factions or extreme Muslim factions that wreak havoc in our world.  I may not be able to win political arguments with those who disagree with me.  But I can certainly love.  And I can expect those around me to love as well.  I can name it.  I can model it.  I can call out hatred in my midst.  I can make it clear that it’s not ok around me.  I can start shaping a real norm about love wins.  A functioning ethic of love.

I will not let it be ok for people to villainize all Muslims for the perspective of an evil faction.  I will name the difference.  I will not let it be ok to denigrate a person because their skin color is darker than mine.  I will name the racism or bigotry.  I will not let it be ok to attack or belittle people from the LGBT community because they understand their sexuality differently from me.  I will name the intolerance and attempt to point to another way.

To choose the path of love does not mean you have to agree or even understand the other.  But it means you refuse to let hate be the defacto reaction to that which you do not agree with.  I refuse to feel like there is nothing I can do anymore.  Because the sad reality is, there is plenty of hate around me.  Or that which, with a little more nurturing, could turn into hate.  I choose love.  In an active way.  And it’s not about politics.  It’s not about economics.  It’s not about power.  It’s about my faith.  I choose Jesus therefore I choose love.  Actively.  Positively.  Verbally.  Physically.  Faithfully.  I believe with every fiber of my being, love wins.

1 John 4:17-19 New Living Translation (NLT)

And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.  Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.  We love each other because he loved us first.

Grace and Peace,

Lory Beth


3 thoughts on “Love Wins

  1. Thank you for this. I could not agree more. To love is a verb.

    Right now I need help in not hating the haters, especially Trump but also Republicans, etc. I have to continually work on not falling prey to this tendency of humankind. I have to understand that these are my neighbors, friends, countrymen and fellow church members. I love these people. I hate the rhetoric, hate speech, stereotyping, homophobia, etc. I pray to God to help me resist the the “eye for an eye” and the “we against they” feelings that surface in me. I pray to God to help me love my neighbor regardless of differences.


  2. Thank you for these words. Please consider sharing this with others via other internet and print venues …. even our local newspapers. Many need to be reminded that one individual can make a difference in fighting hate.


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